Oooh, Girl! He’s HOT!

Have you met any good looking guys recently who seem to suffer from “Hot Guy Syndrome”?? You know what I’m referring to. Those good looking guys who know they’re hot and therefore refuse to try. They don’t use their manners, and chivalry which may not have in fact died, is a certified ghost to them. They expect you to prove to them you’re worthy of their attention rather than the other way around. And they can act this way because they look good and surprisingly, this attitude works for them because there are women who will jump through hoops to get closer to them because they’re thinking of what their future children together will look like, and the jealous stares they’ll receive from other women when they’re out in public because the man on their own arm isn’t quite as handsome, or they’re alone.

Anyway, I’m here today to say that I have fallen victim to the Hot Guy once in the past… okay maybe twice. I was just thinking about the stupid, uncharacteristic things I used to do for once dude in particular. He definitely wasn’t worth it. And turns out of course I wasn’t the only one at the time that he had thinking there was a possibility of being with him. And even now after we stopped seeing each other, stopped physically being with each other, yet remained in contact, he tells me things that make me feel kinda sorry for the women who are smitten with him. He acknowledges that he knows he’s a good catch and it’s hard (for Black women in particular) to find a dude with his same qualities (very handsome, black, educated, gainfully employed, home owner, foreign car driving, etc) and he can’t help but take advantage of it. Self-admittedly, knowing at the statistics of single women in his age group looking for a certain demographic of men that he fits into, makes him even less inclined to settle down now, or date monogamously because he has soooo many options!  Sometimes, like now, when I think about it, I don’t know if I can blame him either. Yeah, it’s wrong in my opinion but I see his logic.

So what is a woman to do?? Anyway, I’m not a lion in a circus and I’m not jumping through any burning hoops! I wrote before about my affinity to men with “medium tools” and I’m letting y’all know today that I will also be completely happy with a dude who is “nice-looking”. LoL! Although every now and then when I first meet a man I may be interested in I have those “hmm I wonder what a daughter with him would look like… ” Don’t judge me. 😉

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Would You Be Offended If . . .

. . . I posted my first shot at writing erotica on the blog??

I took a stab at writing something sexy after drinking a little too much wine the other night. . . Wanna read it?? LoL

On to the Next Year!

As some of you may already know, I recently celebrated the 1st anniversary of the fifth anniversary of my 21st birthday. Figure it out.

The ONLY picture I have from my birthday 2011


All I wanted to do was chill and think about life. I didn’t want a huge bash. I didn’t want to go to the club and pop bottles. Really, I just wanted to relax and soak up the love from my family and friends as the sent text messages, called, wrote on my FB wall and tweeted “HAPPY BIRTHDAY!” . . . Usually one of my ex kisses calls me and sings Happy Birthday in my ear, but we haven’t been on the best of terms lately. Probably mainly because I’m crazy when I feel hurt. LoL I don’t have a thing for him AT ALL anymore, but healthy friendships can be hard to maintain when the foundation contains so much pain. That’s a different story though. Anyway, he didn’t sing but he did wish me a happy birthday so it’s all love.

Hopefully this year is all about growth for me. I know it sounds kinda cliche’ but it’s really my focus this year. When my next birthday approaches I want to look back at this post and say I addressed these things in my life and I’m satisfied with my progression.

  • Love (all types of it, romantic, platonic, familial)
  • Career
  • Health/Beauty
  • Education

That’s not too much to conquer in a year right?? 😉

I did have a birthday date though! oww! Sooo maybe I’m already one step in the direction of that Love thing right?? Ok ok ok I won’t get ahead of myself.

Kissez!

Valentine’s Day!

French Kissez hosted Speed Dating for Trix and Zeke on Valentine’s Day, sponsored by Ciroc Red Berry Vodka! Check out the pics on their site.  <– click it. Now. lol